Just Wanted To Say....

Occasions like this can make or break families.
They can remind everyone of the real priorities, which can only be good.
A lot also depends on the local/families approach and reaction to berievement - the balance of mourning the loss yet celebrating their life.
My wife couldn't believe it when she witnessed jokes at the crematorium over the coffin after my (Yorkshire) Grandfather had died (she had heard about this type of thing but the concept was completely alien to her previous experience and she didn't believe it) but it was the way of celebrating and enjoying the memories of his life.
I hope you and your family can continue to support each other.

my husband was very suprised as well. here in the states things can differ vastly from one shore to the other. he is originally from california were mourning is viewed with a sort of business like breafness. here in the south...well we do things different. people may spend 10 minutes viewing the body at the end of the funeral...kissing the body isnt uncomment... etc..etc... he spent most of the funeral giving me odd looks or looks are startlment. and i just patted his arm and told him it was our way.

my grandma was a wonderful women,she was my source of insperation in alot of way. most of us spent time telling stores about her. for instance she loved to fish(and was darn good at it too) but one always got their snacks before she did....and heres why: my grandma liked to use chicken livers to fish with and she was not the least bit squimish so once she was done baiting her hook she would be seen to wipe her hands off on her geans and dig into the bag of chips.... totally oblivious to the chicken innards still on her hands!

the only regret i have is that i met my husband after she had already started to loose her mental faculties. so he never got to know her. she was a tiny cherokee women from Springdale AR with a big heart and a tiny frame.

Nothing I can say will replace your grandmother, but if you ever need to talk I am willing to just listen. I've recently been through the deaths of both my father and father-in-law, and while my experience both times was different, yours will have been too. I wish you all the best.

Z.

I'm sorry for your loss Ms. Boo.

-Z

I'm glad you're back, though I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. My grandmother died the year before my oldest child was born, which crushed me at the time, since I'd always dreamed of my children sharing wonderful times with her as I had done as a child. But I've shared stories about her with both of my kids, especially when one of them does or says something that reminds me of her.

Please accept my condolences on your loss. Thank you for posting, I enjoy seeing you on the forum and hope you may be around from time to time.

Regards,
Mrs. S.

so far im doing much better. the pain is lessening and the memories are more vivid. my sister and i are currently trying to plan some sort of family reunion since honestly we only ever see the whole family at a funeral! and thats just sad! since we are an entire family of cut ups and weirdos. and cooks... cant forget the lovely food we could all share. im considering talking my sister into having it on my grandmothers birthday. cause i know she would have loved the idea.

the entire thing was a tad harder for me than it naturally would have been for two reasons: i am necrophobic (scared of dead things not death its self) and i have not spoken to my family for more than a few moments in almost a year due to an event i spoke of on the BG a while back. also my oldest sister tried to kill me once (no that isnt a joke she loosened the lug nuts on my driver side from tire) *blink* but its amazing what a person can learn from being in a truely bad relationship (her current husband is very controling) and well...for the first time ever she acted like an adult... i was stunned.

did i mention i got a lot of fruits and nuts in my family tree?

Condolences...I've got a few fruits and nuts too, I love them anyway but I get it. Glad to see you posting again.

i really didnt think i was missed on the forums. then again my husband often tells me i dont give my self enough credit on how people think of me.

hehe my family is full off odd balls. if it tells you any thing my grandmother who passed,i eventually had to tell her what my faith was because it was going to be quit clear once she saw my wedding. so i sat her down, terrified, and said, Gammy (family name) umm... my mother wanted me to let you know my religion is kinda different form yours..." she cut me off here, "Oh honey! i've know you was a hillwitch since you was born! no worries!" and that was that.

amazingly adaptable women. only later, at her funeral, did i find her neice was an ozark wisewoman as well. cheater! she already know about it

ironically her son use to be a grave digger...

on the other hand my aunte was so out of it on zanex... we had to carry her to the grave side. *sigh* fruits nuts,and some rotten ones.